You saved Tiffany and her family from an abusive home
“I’ve been through some hard times, but my family is happy now” says Tiffany, mother of four boys and a girl. Tiffany lives at A New Leaf’s La Mesita Community, and thanks to donors like you her family has a safe, stable place to call home. But, life used to be much more dangerous for Tiffany and her children.
“Our family has come a long way. I have come a long way. It started for me back in high school. I was in a very abusive situation at home. No one would help me. It was a very hard time in my life, very hard” she recalls.
“I didn’t know what to do, so I ran away, dropped out of school, started working, and got my own place. I started my family and gave them a stable home. For a while things were actually going well. I was happy. But everything was turned upside down when I got into another abusive relationship.”
“You never see abuse coming, and it happens slowly. So slowly that you get used to it, even though it isn’t okay.”
“You never see abuse coming, and it happens slowly. So slowly that you get used to it, even though it isn’t okay.” Tiffany’s voice shakes as she thinks about that time in her life. “I stayed there for years, giving everything I could, just trying to have a family.
“There was one night I wanted to take the kids out to the park. I was trying to get them out of the house for a little bit, but we weren’t allowed to go anywhere or do anything he didn’t like. So when I got them ready and I started to leave, he wouldn’t let me out of the bedroom.”
“I tried to leave again and he pushed me up against the wall. I was pregnant at that time, and he didn’t care. I told him to let me go and he didn’t listen. Then he hit me.”
“That had never happened before, he had never hit me when I was pregnant. That was when I knew I needed to get out. I had to keep my babies safe.” It was then that Tiffany finally asked a friend for help, and together they packed her things and left with the children that night.
Tiffany never went back. She called A New Leaf’s Domestic Violence Hotline and was provided with immediate safety and shelter as she found her feet. Slowly, but surely, her family recovered.
“By choosing to leave an abusive situation, I showed my kids that my life matters. I matter.”
Thinking back, Tiffany knows exactly why she left: “I have three children. They are going to grow up and be adults soon. How would they be impacted if I had stayed in a domestic violence situation?”
Tiffany now lives permanently at A New Leaf’s La Mesita Community Campus, giving her children a safe, stable home. Thanks to donors like you, Tiffany’s children will never again be in a domestic violence situation. Reflecting on her experience, Tiffany knows how important it was that she chose to leave a violent partner.
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